What better way to kick off summer than with a flashback to the Summer of Love for a Hippie Wedding in Washington?
Pete has always marched to the beat of a different drum, so I wasn't shocked when he said the hippie wedding party would wear blue jeans and yellow shirts. He said he would lend me one of his Jerry Garcia ties.
The reception featured an open bar, but no one seemed to indulge in excess, probably because many attendees were either well into retirement years or church-goers. The catered food was tasty, and everyone seemed to get their fill.
The night before the wedding, Pete's younger brother Tony and his wife Judy provided a feast of grilled burgers and hot dogs plus side dishes in Pete's backyard. That wedding day's eve, of course, is when younger men might be bar-hopping trying to get the groom wasted.
Getting back to the important subject, Pete's bride Shari turned out to be as sweet and happy as she always seems over the phone. It is not hard to understand why Pete resigned his confirmed bachelor status.
To be perfectly candid, if you had told me five years ago I would be going to Spokane to attend a ceremony for Pete, I would have guessed it would be a funeral, not a wedding.
Yet, we are
gathered here together on this day to join this man and this woman in holy
matrimony.
Whoops,
wrong script --- or should I say? --- someone else’s line.
I think it
is testament to the heeling power of love and the hope that comes with visualizing
a brighter future.
That’s not
to say that before Shari that Pete didn’t already have a lot to live for.
He certainly loves his children and the families they’ve built, and he even loves his ex-wife, in a different way than when they said “I do’s,” one that allows her to give her blessing to this union. He has lots of friends, and in retirement he is living the artistic life he always dreamed of having during his government office days. He is part of a thriving arts community of free souls, which suits Pete well.
However, he told me five years ago that he realized he didn’t have much longer to go.
Wrong again,
Pete!
No, Pete was
never a great forecaster of the future.
He has always been one to live in the present moment.
When we were
teens, Pete would pop through my door like Gandalf from Lord of the Rings, seeing
if I wanted to go for an adventure. As
to where he had been during the days when I hadn’t seen him, he would fill me
in with stories of reading poetry in the girl’s bathroom with a current
infatuation or some vague outline of something that could be interpreted in
many ways. Pushing for details would
only make it less interesting, so off we’d go, Pete the talkative one, and me
the quiet one, usually looking to somehow meet girls.
Sometimes for a few weeks in the summer, we would hang out together almost daily, riding in with my dad to Naples Bay on his way to work so we could enjoy beach fun and flirt with girls, then in the afternoon play a very bad version of Scarborough Fair sitting on the brick planter fence in his front yard, and finally playing penny-ante poker late into the night.
There are plenty of adventures to unfold right there, but suffice it to say we had a lot of fun.
When he came
home on leave after joining the Army, we would play poker, and perhaps smoke
something that used to be illegal while listening to great rock music of the
era.
When he said
he was getting married the first time, I have to say it was kind of a shock
that he would be settling down so young…not to mention that any woman would
have him!
But Phyllis and Pete enjoyed a long, happy marriage that produced great kids, and if they had lifespans of people a hundred years ago, that might have ended with happily ever after.
Despite
smoking too many cigarettes from a time he was too young to smoke, Pete has
somehow outlived that age when perhaps his great-great grandfather would have
been long before pushing up daisies, and so as I said, we are gathered here
today for his marriage to Shari.
I would say Shari has literally been a life saver, helping him recover from health problems and more importantly making him excited to share new adventures with her. Perhaps those adventures are going to church on Sunday morning or to an art exhibit opening rather than a quest to recover some Ring of Power in a distant land, but I’m not sure it is ever much more than that for most of us. And it can be a great life with the right companion to share the adventures.
In any case,
he has found a new ring, a wedding ring, and we hope it is a ring of happiness
and love, which is better than raw power.
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